Caught In A Lie

Hello my amazing readers. I know I haven't posted in awhile, there is no excuse. That being said, I am writing a post at 1 am my time, so call that dedication. This post is about when women catch men in a lie. I have recently caught a man in a lie. It wasn't a great experience to be quite truthful. I was seeing this guy... things were going amazingly and then out of the blue his ex-girlfriend posted on his face book wall a message about how she loved him. I texted him telling him to never speak to me again and that I had deleted his number. He responded saying how sorry he was for not telling me that he and his ex got back together and how everything he told me whilst we were together was 100% the truth but he decided to give her another chance. What this guy doesn't know is that I don't give a fuck about him or his ex. If you're seeing a girl and you pull that shit on her, DON'T expect her to be forgiving and loving. Men who pull that kind of bullshit are cowards. If you can't own up to something you're about to do then don't do it. A real man would be open and honest and break off the relationship before going back to his old one. Little boys are the one's who treat a girl like shit and ignore her and let her find out the hard way. Little boys can't face the music and own up to what they've done or give a heads up to what they're about to do. Men would be real and honest. Men would care about her feelings and respect her as a person. Women should never be treated like complete shit. We are worth more than that. If you're a little boy reading this post, take notes. Learn from other little boy's mistakes. Don't pull that shit on a girl ever. It's so disrespectful. It's not right. As for the boy would pulled this bullshit on me, if you're reading this, you never had my heart, and now, you never will. 


-RG

Cathy Elaine Jones January 12,1964- March 2nd 2013

I'm writing this piece aside from relationships tonight. Today, being the 12th of January, marks my dear auntie Cathy's 50th birthday if she were still here today. I wanted to honor her with a post specifically for her. I love you auntie Cathy and I wish we could've spent this day together in celebration of your life. I miss you and I hope you're having an amazing birthday in heaven xoxo


-RG

Opening Your Eyes

We all make mistakes, big or little. My friend, who I care for a lot had recently started dating her childhood sweetheart  long distance. He had a girlfriend, and she told him they wouldn't be able to start any sort of romantic relationship until he was single so he decided to dump his girlfriend for her... She was overjoyed to have this boy to  herself finally.... they had always liked each other. They had only been seeing each other for half a week when he told her he loved her, and she  felt a bit of pressure on her shoulders, so she said the 3 dreaded words back. BIG MISTAKE. She knew she shouldn't have said it back if she never meant it. Anyways, they would call each other every day. They'd text and always keep in touch to try and make the relationship work from so far away. She planned to visit him in the summer since she would always go back home every summer. They were so excited. He had called her up one night and he decided he wanted her to call him a special pet name.... so being a great girlfriend she agreed. It wasn't until a day ago that she saw on his Facebook wall a post from his ex from a week ago calling him the exact same pet name. They got into a huge argument over it and she explained to him how it made her feel knowing he wanted her to call him the same name his ex called him. She felt like he was trying to replace his ex with her by making her the same person. After that fight she gave him another chance... but only to wake up the next morning, look on Facebook and see that the same ex had tagged him in some lame picture that she took of the words "I LOVE _____________" My friend was furious. Like any normal girl, she liked the photo, deleted the boy and texted him saying "I'm done with you, don't ever text or call me again." She proceeded to block his phone numbers from texting, calling and facetimming her. My advice to my beautiful friend is to open your eyes. Don't be completely blind in the presence of love. He was a liar and a fake. Don't beat yourself up about this, and always remember to be honest in love. Don't tell someone you love them back if you don't. It's less messy. I hope he realizes what he's lost girl.. Don't feel broke or upset, you deserve better and you'll get better. Ladies out there, don't let a man have the opportunity to do this to you. If he broke up with his girlfriend for you, what makes you think he wont break up with you for another girl, or worse, his ex. Hope you learned your lesson J.


-RG

Your First Time- Girls

If you haven't already noticed from the title, this post is specifically  for the women in the audience, or the girls. Whoever you are, this is a serious topic. This is about you and your body. If you're like me, then you've been told countless time by boys, and the occasional men, that sex isn't the biggest thing... it's not that important, that you should just do it and do it with me. I'm here to tell you ladies, this is a lie. Sex wasn't made to be a thing you toss around like a piece of trash. The connection between two people in the physical state is something to be cherished. Sex's real name is Making Love. Many men and women treat it like it's just another act that you just do. To me sex means so much more... that's why I haven't done it yet. I, like many other girls, want to give myself to someone who truly loves me and doesn't ask for it or demand it but tells me that it'd be an honor and that it's my decision when it happens and that he stands by me whether we have sex or not. Sex is a privilege for you men out  there... we women already endure so many painful things, that you men wouldn't understand, and you men may have the privilege to get the one thing we women find pleasurable if we so  desire. Women, this post was made to let you know that if you don't feel comfortable in a physical situation, you have the right to say no and you shouldn't put yourself through something you don't want to put yourself through because someone makes you feel like it means nothing to you when it's quire the opposite. In my eyes, sex is something God made to be a special bond between those who are married... now sometimes I think if you're in love and you make the conscious decision to give up your virginity to the one you love then that's just as special. For those of you who disagree but still see sex as a very special thing that shouldn't be tossed around then I agree. Sex is too powerful and special to be thrown around. If you ladies are about to have your first time, make sure you're 100% sure it's the right  time and that YOU'RE READY. Don't have sex if you're unsure of your decision or if you've been given an ultimatum by a guy, like "If we don't have sex then I'm dumping you." My best friend gave her virginity to a guy she was dating and thought she loved, he told her if she didn't do that, then he'd dump her... and ladies can you guess what he did after they had sex? If you guessed that he dumped her then you're 100% right. Ladies men like that truly don't deserve you. All I can truly say to you ladies, virgins or not, make sure you're okay with your decision before you make it.... think of yourself before a man... and if you do decide that it's the right time and you're ready... remember to use protection. My sister got pregnant with my beautiful niece because she and her boyfriend weren't careful. As much as we all love our like baby girl, my sister is now forever tied to a man who treats  her like shit whether they're married or not because they share offspring. So please ladies, if you're not ready for that to happen then be smart. Talk to your doctor and find the best plan for yourself. As for me, abstinence until I'm ready.. Hope this helps ladies.


-RG

Blaming Yourself

Many men and women are truly afraid to be themselves in a relationship. Sometimes it's hard to share who you really are with the people you love because you're afraid of rejection or judgment. A friend of mine was recently cheated on. He is a really sweet guy but he's meddled in the wrong crowd and has put himself in really sticky situations. The girl he loved had only been his girlfriend for 8 months, but he thought the world of her. Now that she has cheated, he has run through so many possible reasons why she could have done something this terrible to him. He acquired an injury which has taken many months for him to recover from.... he is still in the hospital, unable to walk and considers this a reason why she might have cheated on him with her ex-boyfriend. He constantly spends his days in a hospital bed, bored out of his mind, but she would usually join him and keep him company. Now that she has cheated, I cannot imagine how boring it must be to spend your days in a hospital bed, unable to go anywhere or do anything fun... but to also be in there, with your thoughts, and knowing how the one you loved cheated on you is probably one of the worst things to endure. The physical strain that cheating puts on a lover is unimaginable. Knowing the one you loved wasn't as faithful as you were must be really tough. Like in my previous post, Love or Lust, when someone cheats on you, it's not your fault.... you didn't single handedly push them into the arms of another, they cheated because they weren't the one you thought they were, and as hurtful and as sad as that may feel, you deserve better. When the healing process is over and you're truly past this ultimatum, look back with a positive mind.... not a negative one. Don't regret what happened... be thankful you found out when you did instead of years down the road.... My advice to my friend is when something this sad happens to you, don't blame yourself... don't find any possible reason why the person you loved could have done this to you.... don't blame your own physical set back, or appearance, or who you are mentally... don't blame yourself. You are perfectly fine. It's the person that cheated on you who should be feeling like shit and blaming themselves. Not you. And to my readers going through the same situation... you deserve so much better... don't get  back with that person if your reasoning is because you're afraid to be alone or because you don't think you can find better.... You can get whoever you want. You just have to think positively and be confident in yourself. Always remember, there's only one you in the world... don't let yourself go to waste.

-RG

It's Been Too Long

I realize I haven't posted any relationship advice lately... been caught up in my world I guess. I'll be posting some new topics tomorrow... please check back...maybe with this new material I'll have more than 27 page views. Tell your friends, if you have any topics you'd like for me to discuss then comment on this post.


-RG

CHEAP ASS MEN

Have you ever dated someone who treats you  like trash? Always holds money over your head? Says you owe him this and this and that and that when really it should just be paid for by him out of love? Ever been with a man who wont sleep with you unless you pay off all your "debt" and "loans." Sounds more like you're dating BMO or TD. My mother, as crazy and annoying as she may be, is married to a COMPLETE MONEY LOVING SELFISH BASTARD. He is constantly jotting down what she's spent with his debit card, whether it be a present for friends/family, or just a little something for herself or their house. He is CONSTANTLY making a mental note of everything she owes him back. What really pains me, is that I live in their home... I am 18, if you haven't already guessed, I pay room and board, a meer $150 a month... but I am paying to live there, use their appliances, shower, and food. I am also paying to live in my bedroom, and as a tenant, I believe I have the right to make a noise complaint.. ha ha. Anways, to get back on track... men who marry women knowing they're not as successful, and can't bring much to the table (financially) should NEVER complain and bitch about how their woman is never bringing anything into the home. Men, if you're dissatisfied with your woman's bank account.... NO ONE SAID YOU HAD TO MARRY HER. What pisses me off the most is how they expect so much when they found their woman struggling to pay the bills. Don't marry her if you're not willing to hold her up and take care of your woman. Men are supposed to be the bread winners (except for some cases, ie. women who are strong willed) and women are supposed to be the one's who keep their house tidy & make meals and raise children.. now I know this is 2014, and I am sounding a bit out dated, but I believe if you marry a woman, you shouldn't expect to split every bill, every meal out and every credit card notice. In some cases, like families who have two working parents because they have to it makes sense, but my mother's husband (he is not my father, never helped in the creation of yours truly) is a lawyer. A very high-end and uptight lawyer. Like all lawyer's (ive met anyways) he is a liar, manipulator and scammer. When I was 5 my parents split up and we moved to a run-down townhouse... we barely had two nickles to rub together, my mother was under so much pressure and working 24/7... then she met her present husband, they dated (very briefly) and he promised her and my brother the world. 4 trips a year to see my dad and other siblings, trips to Disneyland and other amazing places and the best promise he made, was for my mother to never have to work again. She could stay at home and cook and clean and watch me and my brother. He broke all those promises. I see my family once a year for 3 weeks, I barely know my own father, or up until now. My point being men who marry women and promise them all these things then change their mind after the wedding and become a complete nightmare to live with or even spend time with aren't men at all... they're a shell of a man. My advice to women who are dating men like this, haven't tied the knot yet... GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN. Women who are too late, and already married to this monster, file for divorce... put up a good fight to get some of what he has but if you can't, like my mother's case.. then just get the divorce. It is far better to be alone, poor but happy than to be rich, alone and miserable. There is nothing good that can come from misery and pain. Dedicated to my mom... I hope you make the tough decision.


-RG